I’m still quite blown away by the fact that someone has the nerve to come to a baby loss blog and actually infer that THEY are upset by their friends/acquaintances who have lost babies, because those friends resented her normal, healthy births and children. I mean really? Really?! You’re so sick of baby loss moms struggling with guilt and resentment? YOU are sick of it?! And you’re offended that they don’t want to be around you, or are jealous of you, or the fact that you are a trigger that brings them back to one of the most traumatic experiences of their lives? You’re offended??? And you also think that you as a person who have never been there before have the right to judge the process of grieving for someone else?
Wow. Just wow.
No one has the right to be rude and nasty to someone else, including parents who are grieving. But when you seek out places where baby loss parents are venting, grieving, and otherwise commiserating… you honestly have no right to complain about what you’re hearing or reading. And if a baby mom IS rude or nasty to you and you’re pregnant/a mom, well I feel that’s inappropriate, too. You might have the grace to excuse her or even just feel bad that she’s so stuck in the anger part of the process. Or you can just say, “I understand that it’s normal for you to have these feelings, but it is still not appropriate to take your (understandable) anger out on me.”