funny questions, annoying statements

It’s annoying that whenever someone finds out that I lost my baby, they immediately say, “you can try again” or “will you try again?” What the hell does that have to do with it? If your older child died, would I immediately say, “you have other kids” or ask “don’t you have other kids?”

But something funny that people ask me all the time now that I am trying again: “When will you know if it worked?” Well, gee… how would you know if you were pregnant? You’d miss a period, right??? There’s nothing magical about getting pregnant via sperm donor. Except maybe for the initial insertion, it works the exact same way! Never fails to crack me up.

Author: Mother of All Things

Mother by fostering, adoption, and marriage... wife to my best friend... Bay area critical care nurse... travel in my blood, reading in my bones, clean food on my mind!

3 thoughts on “funny questions, annoying statements”

  1. Good point! I am always annoyed when an adult dies and people always immediately ask, “did they have kids? ” As an infertile woman it always makes me want to ask if that means they are worth more. I have been following your journey and I am sincerely heartbroken that you lost your bay girl. I never know what to say in these situations, but when I lost a family member someone once told me that the person died not the relationship. The relationship lives on, It gave me a small amount of peace because it was true our relationship continued to grow and change and it continues to this day.

  2. Yes, you have a very good point. I guess people just kinda get dumb when someone has experienced a loss. It’s like a miscarriage is sort of “fixable”, in their minds. As a woman who has experienced 3 miscarriages, I promise that you never replace the one(s) lost with other children. They are additions, not replacements.
    I’m sorry for your loss, btw. xoxo

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