I’ve had three days off, and despite enjoying being with my baby immensely, I’ve been feeling kind of isolated in mommy-world. I tried to find a mommy meet-up in my nearest city… there are none. Seriously, none. There are some in the city where I work, but that is an hour drive each way. I contacted the ladies who are local SMC-ers, but all of them live at least an hour or more away. I literally went to a popular park with the baby and sat on a bench with her, just to be around other moms and babies. They were all either in groups already, or had much older kids playing on the playground equipment, but still.
I am constantly harassing my sister and other close friends, or other family members with babies, to try to plan meet-ups, even though it means several hours in a car for Jo Jo and I. No one else ever initiates these things with us, so am I just extra needy? Or is everyone else I know (mom or otherwise) just all set in the social department?
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Make your own group using Craigslist or Meetup.com. You cannot be the only one in your area feeling that way!
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Do to my middle of nowhereness I have to go elsewhere for playdates as well. I (with my last breath of let me speak to another human being before I die) reconnected with friends from high school that lived in my area and had a kid around the same age as mine on facebook. I had no social department before this.
This was very very important to my sanity. And G’s. You are not alone with your feelings.
I wish we lived in the same middle of nowheres!
Do you want to email me and see how far apart we are? I think we are less than two hours. And I have another blog friend in Royal Oak. I’d be totally willing to have a play date if there’s a good middle place! I have a group of crunchy mom friends by me but no other SMCs and generally feel pretty isolated.
And my email is firstname.lastname@example.org
For the first 2 years I was completely isolated with my daughter. I started to suspect that she was delayed developmentally, at least in speech and social skills. I had her assessed through E.I. and she was speech delayed a whole year. I NEEDED to get her around kids. We lived in a gang-guns-shootings area and there was no safe community to become a part of. I found a nanny share on Craigslist and started taking her 15 hours/week just so she could play with another little girl her age. I was ready to put her in daycare just for the socializing. Eventually, we drained our savings, searched around, and moved to a neighborhood of young families. It was the best thing that has every happened to her. She has blossomed socially, her vocabulary is off the charts, she is fearless and a leader among the kids. In just a few months.
Being isolated was bad for me, as a mother with no support, but even worse for my daughter, who was a born social butterfly and I didn’t even know it. I basically upheaved my whole life to give her neighborhood friends. I know you are in a beautiful place on a lake, so maybe that’s not a realistic solution for you. But if Jojo finds permanency in your home, it might be a sacrifice worth making. Either a move near other children or… a sibling??