The babble article titled I Don’t Want My Name On My Daughter’s Birth Certificate by Rebecca of Fosterhood summed it up: I should not be listed as the birth mother on my daughter’s official birth certificate. It is a record of her birth. Her birth. She was born to her other mom, the person who gave her 50% of her genes and 100% of her start in life. There is no reason that she should be erased from this important document and replaced by me. My role as her mother is not diminished because I did not contribute to her existence in this way. Like Rebecca points out, there should be a place to add on to a birth certificate for adoptive parents. If the biological/birth parent does not want to be on the birth certificate after adoption has taken place, a new birth certificate should be issued which whites out their names but leaves the adoptive parents’ names intact under ‘adoptive parent’.
Placing my name in the spot allocated to birth mother is a denial of my daughter’s history and identity, as well as a denial of Cindy as being her mother in that very important way. It implies secrecy, and shame; the opposite of what I want my daughter’s origins to be about.
This will be a problem until adoptees in every single state have the right to access their own original birth certificates. Currently only 8 states allow full and unrestricted access to adult adoptees who want a copy of their own original birth certificate. The fact that my daughter is being denied a right that non-adopted children will have at the age of 18 really pisses me off.