Have not heard from Cindy other than to ask if she’s safe, and she said yes. Then I told her that I hope everything works out but just in case the new baby gets removed by the state, to tell her case worker to call me and makes sure she gets my phone number. I have no idea what that would lead to, but at the very least I could pass on my contact info and prospective adoptive parents for the new baby would be able to keep in touch with his sister, and maybe other siblings, if they want.
I basically would hate for him to just disappear. I know that Cindy’s worst fear is just losing her kids and never knowing what became of them or how they are. She may have her problems, but she has been so very happy to have just a way of knowing that M is safe, happy, and loved. I think that’s something she deserves, just to know that the children she gave birth to are doing ok. Maybe I can provide a link for her, even if I can’t take the baby.
I don’t know her backstory, but her asking you to adopt this baby makes it sound like she doesn’t intend to try to raise him/her.
She always intends to do better… But she also knows that with prior terminations and the habits she has, removal is a possibility.
That makes sense.
Though it is almost self defeating and setting herself up for it. She sounds like she wants to parent but knows she can’t.