So, I’ve been asking around, trying to find out how many toys or presents people get their kids every year. I asked lots of different kinds of families, trying to basically see where I ended up. I haven’t “done Christmas” for real yet, because when M was 9 months old and 21 months old, I didn’t get her anything, and she had no idea. Foster care provided her with some gifts the first year, and the second year other people gave her some things, but it wasn’t much and she didn’t care. Whatever I thought she wanted and would enjoy, I just got her when I thought of it. For the record, we frequently go to toy stores to “play” and she doesn’t beg me or even ask for me to buy her anything before we leave.
This year, I’m giddily anticipating Christmas morning, mostly because she has no expectations but she will REALLY be amazed when she comes out and sees gifts under the tree. This is almost more fun than being a kid, myself! I’ve decided not to discuss Santa one way or another. I’m sure in future years it will come up, but if she wants to believe, she can. If she wants me to tell her the truth, I will. We’ll play it by ear, but I’m not going to be using Santa as a threat or even really say that the presents are from Santa.
As excited as I am, I think I may have gone a bit overboard on presents. Not as overboard as some people, but overboard for me. For her stocking, I got: Anna and Elsa mini figures with snap on dresses, a Sofia the First mermaid bath toy, new bath crayons (had to pitch the old ones), chocolate kisses in a candy cane, a plastic pirate sword, and a Frozen watch (a very cheap one).
I got her two large gifts. One is a Melissa & Doug fold out castle, but I bought it used. For less than a fourth of the brand new price I got it with all of the furniture. It will be under the tree unwrapped. I also got her an art desk, with paper, scissors, washable paints, markers, stamps, etc. This will be set up with everything on it, also unwrapped, by the tree. For wrapped gifts she has a drill set (second-hand), a pretend make up set, hatching dinosaur eggs, a bucket of dino figurines (very cheap, used on ebay), and a build-your-own marble maze track, bought on clearance. Also, Mulan and Peter Pan movies (also used).
So very few things are brand new, and only one of the larger things was bought at full price (the art desk). I didn’t spend a lot of money at all, but it sure looks like a lot when written down. In my defense, she is not getting presents from my mom, and maybe something small from my grandma, and maybe something small from one or two other people. She will probably get a few hand-me-down toys from her cousin. I guess I felt like if she was going to get things she would actually use and play with for a long time, I would have to get them.
What do all of you buy for your kids for Christmas?