I don’t post much in the way of open-adoption anymore. Partly it’s that we’ve gotten so busy with life and partly it’s because it can be so uncomfortable and such a pain to make the effort to visit M’s relatives. The aunt, first of all, has asked for money once and last I heard from her she was texting me several times a minute that she “needed” to talk to me. I didn’t respond except to say I was at work. I just don’t want to get sucked into the awkwardness of saying no to paying the water or electric bill, knowing M’s three cousins are the ones who pay the price. The last we saw them was at her birthday party in March.
I’ve also had a bit of trouble with the facebook I created to keep in touch with them. I can’t pull it up on my phone without all of these errors and problems switching back to my regular facebook, so I went ahead and tried to friend the aunt and grandpa on my regular account. Grandpa friended me quickly and makes nice comments about M and what she’s up to. Last week M’s older bio-sister (age 9) was up from Texas with her grandma (her paternal grandma, not related to M). I found out at the last minute. She claims she tried to contact me but due to the facebook problem I didn’t get her message (although I gave her my phone number last summer, so…). I found out at the last minute and even though I was working, I had my mom meet them at a park so M could see her sister. Apparently, according to bio-sister’s grandma, the aunt’s kids have been removed from her by CPS and she is into some drugs. They may be with their dad or in foster care, I have no idea.
As far as M’s bio mom… haven’t heard anything from her since Christmas. No texts, no facebook accounts, nothing. Time to search the county public records for arrests, I guess.